Is Your child misbehaving? Improve His Behavior

I am working as teacher, and researcher for finding the ways of teaching and improving the skills in children for four years. I have learnt a lot and find the basic problems most parents are facing and I  am going to share one of the most critical and confusing one that is misbehaving. I am going to share the best way to cop this problem, let me begin this.The most critical thing is to teach your child how to behave well. Now first you have to recognize the fact that your child is misbehaving and his/her behavior is not normal. You have to understand the normal behavior, it depends on your child's age, personality and physical and emotional development. And when it does't match with your expectations and is not socially, developmently appropriate, you can say it is not normal. And if you know what your child's behavior should be at each age you can easily judge whether his or her behavior is normal.

Children have a tendency to stop the behavior if it is ignored or vice versa. For stoping your child to misbehave, first recognise that he or she is misbehaving and then attempt to stop that behavior by ignoring or punishing. Tell him to behave like you wanted him to behave and then reward him. Better way to stop the specific behavior is to ignore it, don't be impatient in this matter. The results will be shown over a period of time. And if your child's behavior is of some kind that you want it to stop immidiately you follow  the method which is called time-out method. What is time-out method? it is a kind of punishment you give your child on misbehaving. You first tel him to stop if he does't then you give that punishment. You choose a place that is uninteresting but remember not frightenening to the child such as a chair a corner or any lonely place you think suitable for time-out place. When he or she misbehave, give a warning to the child if he or she doesn't stop take him or her to the time-out area. In this time you keep yourself calm and normal. Don't speak loudly, and rude, just keep yourself normal. Set a time which is usually 1 minute for each year of your child's age. After the time-out let the child to leave the time-out place. Don't talk about the bad behavior, introduce a desired behavior.

Now I come towards my second part that is encouraging a desired behavior. As I said earliar, to encourage a new behavior in your child is rewarding. It works best in children over 2 year of age. Be patient it works over a perioed of time, 1-2 months or more. Choose a reward that is favorite of your child it may be a story book, a snak, a toy or anything you know better of your choice of your child, you can ask him or her what he or she like most. Tell him or her your desired behavior and promise the reward.

It is better to write notes about the behavior of your child. Note down the improvements and important events.

Always keep in mind:

• Avoid power struggle
• Be consistent in your punish and reward strategy
• Don't repeat: your child get bored of repeating advices
• Don't let your child feel guilty, tell him or her that he or she is not bad but the behavior
• Praise him or her on good behavior and touch him or her affectionately
• Choose a best time to teach your child
• Use common sense

Hope these bits of advices help you to improve your child's behavior.